How to Make Your Child’s Birthday Party One to Remember
Has your child started to count down the days until his or her birthday? His or her eyes sparkle as they anticipate the presents, excitement and love that day will be filled with. The childlike wonder of a day of celebrating him- or herself is very special. Parents often wonder, how can I make my child’s birthday party one to remember?
Here is the secret: think back to one of the best birthday parties you had. What did you get? How did you feel? Who was there?
Chances are that you don’t exactly remember what you received as a gift. If you do remember, it was probably because it evoked a strong reaction (i.e. it was something that you really, really wanted or didn’t want at all). Maya Angelou once observed, “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Here is the top question to consider that, when answered, is sure to make your child’s birthday party one to remember:
What is your child’s love language?
Identify how your child feels loved by you:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
As mentioned in a previous blog, Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell wrote The 5 Love Languages of Children which helps to identify how a child feels and expresses love. Here are some ideas to fill your child’s love tank by focusing on their specific love language.
Words of Affirmation
Decorate the family car or mirror with markers for glass. Write ‘Honk for this guy’s 7th Birthday!!!’ on your car. Or consider adding a verse such as, “The Lord has done it this very day, let us rejoice today and be glad.” Psalm 118:24
Acts of Service
Let the birthday kid choose his or her birthday meals! Put a candle in a stack of pancakes or French toast. Also consider decorating the house with streamers and balloons.
Design a special shirt, socks, headband, etc. with their new age on it. Your child can wear this all day and remember their special day with this gift.
Set up a special parent/child date night where the child gets to spend quality time with you.
Make sure to explain to all the siblings that today is about the birthday kid feeling special. Make sure to give a lot of hugs!
Keep in mind that your child probably has multiple love languages. Doing something that really fills their love tank is sure to make your child’s birthday one to remember!